39 Men Share What Icks Make Them Lose Interest In A Woman
Having an open mind is crucial when it comes to dating. You never know who’s going to swoop in and steal your heart, and if you’re too picky, you can miss out on potentially beautiful connections.
But we’re all allowed to have preferences. And men on Reddit have recently been opening up about what instantly makes them lose interest in a woman. We’ve gathered a list of their turn-offs below, some of which you may agree with and some of which you might find absolutely arbitrary. But either way, we hope you enjoy your journey through this list, and remember to upvote the “icks” that you wouldn’t be able to look past either!
When nothing evolves or changes, or the woman just has too much baggage that she is putting on you. I will help a partner carry their burden, but it’s not my fault and being blamed/punished for it is not it
There hits a point where it’s just not worth it anymore.
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My last relationship i got fed up with the constant trauma dumping, and taking no accountability for their actions, everything was due to past trauma, never her fault etc. She could do no wrong due to this and when she did wrong i should just accept it because it was due to trauma. Tho getting help for said trauma or taking my concerns into account was out of the questions. If i had stayed it would have become a full time job.
When I start to get the sense that she is playing with me for attention but has no interest in being vulnerable or honest about her own fears and shortcomings. When I start to realize I’m the only one talking, and she is a brick wall with any questions about herself. I’ll try to get in there for a while, but eventually, I start to feel like I’m just being studied and toyed with, and I don’t deserve to be a science experiment. It might be her trauma, but that’s not my drama.
Money.
I don’t expect a woman to finance me. I’m even happy to pay the lions share on most things because I do make good money. But dear lord pay SOMETHING. Be responsible for the food or power bill or pay some rent.
If you are so bad with money that you can’t keep gas in your car while I’m paying all the rent and utilities and buying all the food, there is just something wrong with you.
Lack of communication, i want you to feel comfortable enough around me to talk about anything that’s bothering you, or to just send a text when you feel like it. If that’s not happening then eventually i will lose interest, unless there’s a good reason for it happening obviously since you can’t know everything.
A lot has made me almost totally lose interest but the two that come to mind the most are beinf expected to put in 200% effort every day when they cant be a**ed to put any effort in to meet increasingly lowering standards. And the my money is our money her money is her money mindset. At the end of all my relationships Ive just mentally checked out once I start feeling like im just an income stream that is expected to be a therapist, entertainer, chef, and handyman every day for someone that will judge you for showing any emotions besides what they want to see from you.
You only get so many chances to tell me about your awful ex bf. After that, I will consider you to be lacking in traits like independence and maturity, and that makes you seem like an unreliable partner because you’re living in the past and not engaged in what’s in front of you now.
Juggling too many options. I’m only going to invest in someone who is all in.
So for me I’m 7.5 years in to a relationship and no matter how much I plead she won’t communicate. She see conversations about anything other than positive stuff as confrontational and won’t speak, I’ve also asked her to get some talking therapy to find out why, it’s now at the point I’m just switching off not just from our relationship but all women as I just can’t be bothered any more – I’m 50 in 5 weeks and think I just wanna be alone and get a dog to talk and chill with.
Both people are supposed to evolve and grow in a relationship. When one doesn’t, the whole ship is at risk of sinking. I think men overall are more flexible and able to adapt and recognise when their behaviour needs to change. So a marriage will often look like a man bending over backwards for his wife. But it doesn’t need to be this way.
Constant negativity or drama. If every conversation is complaints or emotional rollercoasters, it’s exhausting. People want fun, light energy and someone who makes life easier, not heavier.
Attitude. Entitlement. Rudeness. Not everyone is deserving of being treated that way. Apparently a lot of people didn’t get that message or refuse to acknowledge it applies to them.
Low effort, low interest, low honesty, overly defensive from past hurts etc etc. i don’t chase anyone not showing me enough interest or effort.
Lack of ambition, taking for granted, putting in very little effort, complaining constantly and taking no steps to address amy of their fairly easily resolved issues across years, a victim mentality and general laziness assuming their partner will fix whatever it wrong
Also pointless games, get out of here with that.
