Older Women Are Sharing The "Totally Sexist, Yet Normalized" Things They’re Done Tolerating
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“Feeling pain during a C-section. I was screaming ‘I still feel it’ and my anesthesiologist said, ‘We don’t wanna give her anything too strong, she might not remember the birth.’ Meanwhile, I did not want my baby anywhere near me after he came out, because I was so enraged and in agony, and felt completely helpless. Actually, I’m so traumatized by that birth, I absolutely will NEVER have another kid.”
“I don’t wanna scare anyone from having kids, though. This was with my second child. My first child was an emergency C-section, and the adrenaline made the epidural painless (I don’t remember feeling it at all, not even the numbing part). I did have the same ‘hotspot’ where the epidural didn’t reach, and when I start panicking about the pain, they gave me ketamine and I was good. They continued to do their thing; I still remember seeing my girl and doing cheek-to-cheek with her. It was traumatic, too, but not nearly as much as my second one.
The second time around was a scheduled Cesarean, so I thought it had to go better, right? And I informed my doctors and anesthetists of what happened the first time. So when it happened again, and this time was not given any stronger pain meds, it was terrifying and the pain felt way worse from before. Adrenaline was still sky high because all the memories of the first one were there.”
