Woman Expects Cousin To Babysit Instead Of Attending School, Goes “Near Mental” When She Says No

Many working moms will tell you it’s not easy juggling everything and keeping your sanity intact. It helps to have family members who can step in to assist now and again. But some parents don’t seem to know where to draw the line.

Like one woman who expects her teenage cousin to cook, clean, help with chores, and babysit her toddler every day so that she can relax. The teen has shared how she’s at breaking point trying to balance all she has to do. Her schoolwork is suffering because she’s been told to skip class and look after the kid instead.

When entitled parents expect others to step in 24/7, there’s bound to be drama

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When one mom demanded that her cousin skip school to babysit for her every day, it didn’t go down well

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How to juggle school and babysitting duties, according to the experts

Babysitting requires 100% of your attention. “Your only focus should be the kids,” saysRachel Charlupski, founder of The Babysitting Company in Miami.

Even at night, when you think the child will be sleeping, don’t assume you’ll be able to get other work done. “Because of a time change, having [a] new person in [the] house or not feeling well, that child could be awake the whole time. It’s important to know that the child might not be sleeping,” explains Charlupski.

Tatiana Cruz babysat part-time throughout her college career at Montclair State University. She says flexibility is key when it comes to looking after other people’s children.

“This isn’t your regular part-time job at the mall,” Cruz told Care.com. “Kids get sick, parents get time off, and things can sometimes change. Expect the occasional ‘I’m stuck in a meeting. Can you stay with the kids longer?’ Also, be open to helping out during the weekends and holidays.”

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Cruz adds that being flexible meant she had to sacrifice going to various events and parties. But because she was being paid to babysit, the extra cash made it worthwhile. And she was able to use her earnings to pay for books and other expenses.

However, Cruz believes schoolwork should be a priority. “Put yourself first. Yes, you have a responsibility to the family you sit for, but your education needs to come first,” she advises, adding that it’s important to learn to say no if you can’t handle it.

“I’d often get asked if I could sit during the weekends, but if I knew that I had a big midterm coming up that Monday, I might have to say no,” she reveals.

The experts warn that juggling school and babysitting work should never come at the expense of your mental health or own well-being. This means in addition to saying no, you should always make sure you’re getting enough rest, eating properly, and finding ways to relieve stress.

Don’t ever take on more than you can handle is Charlupski’s advice. “Parents want to see that you’re making good judgment all around. If you’re overrun, you’re not going to give anything your all,” she cautions. “You’re not going to be healthy for school or for work, and it’s going to be a big problem.”