Woman Thinks She’s Met A Perfect Man Until She Visits His Home
Everyone has different norms and conditions they are willing to accept from a potential partner. While some red flags are nearly universal, people tend to have pet peeves that get to them more than they might bother others. But sometimes, some issues are very apparent.
A woman asked the internet what she should do when she visited her boyfriend’s home for the first time and discovered that it was absolutely filthy and he seemed ok with it. Readers were quick to tell her this is a major red flag and most were surprised she wasn’t sure what to do with him.
Visiting a new partner for the first time can be quite the learning experience
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But one woman found that her BF’s place was horribly messy and unsanitary
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Some men don’t seem to register cleaning as a task that needs to be done
It’s one of life’s enduring enigmas: how can an adult male work, pay his taxes, maybe even barbecue like a Michelin-starred chef, and remain utterly baffled by the concept of gathering socks from the carpet or cleaning up after their dogs? Some men, bless them, seem to consider cleanliness an optional side mission rather than a bare-bones survival skill.
For these guys, the living room isn’t a shared space, it’s a display case in the museum of bachelor existence titled “Bachelor Pad, Circa Forever.” The laundry basket is more of an attraction and less of a heap, more like a miniature mountain range rising steadily in the corner. Dishes piling up in the sink don’t count as “dirty” until they’ve attained some sort of geological age, and as a bonus, a thin veneer of fuzz to present evidence of their evolution. To them, it’s not a daily chore to clean a counter but an epic struggle, worthy of the appropriate mood, the appropriate soundtrack, and a day’s worth of procrastination.
And they don’t lack it, precisely, just possess a weird ability to categorize mess as “background.” That pizza box on the floor isn’t trash, it’s the environment. Those socks strewn about the ground aren’t messy, they’re just reclining in their natural habitat. That dust bunny community under the couch? That’s just a small group of loyal pets, living undisturbed without attention or time-out.
More astounding is the mental contortions involved. Somehow, a fellow able to remember every statistical tidbit of his favorite sporting team of the last decade cannot, for the life of him, remember where the dish towels are stored in the drawer. He’ll operate a power drill without hesitation but lock up like a deer in headlights when confronted with a vacuum cleaner. It’s as if there is an inner switch that says, “This is women’s magic. Do not use.” Of course, there are also enough cases of women having dirty homes that we can’t conclude that this is exclusively a male trait, but the trend is clear enough.
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Sometimes the cause of this is the simple fact that they were never taught to do it in the first place
Of course, not every man is a criminal of this nature, but for the ones who are, cleanliness manifests in a universe coexistent with their own. Cleaning for them is not so much “doing it now” and more “waiting until the mess comes to life and gives you notice and requires a green card.” When confronted, the most common excuse is, “But I was going to do it!”, a term which, when translated, usually boils down to “at some undefined point in the distant future, perhaps when the stars are in conjunction.”
And yet, despite the chaos, there’s something nearly cute to it. The raging belief that a messy room is still somehow very livable, the juvenile shock when they actually do clean and find, “Wow, this place is great!”, as if they’d unlocked an in-game secret level. It’s infuriating and comical, the endless tug-of-war between adult responsibility and the internal teen who still thinks deodorant counts as cleaning. Sometimes people do have over-the-top and downright strange house rulesbut there are some “normal” standards that everyone should follow.
In the end, the puzzle remains unsolved. Why can’t some men get out of their houses in the right order? Maybe it’s culturalmaybe it’s habit, or maybe, maybe it’s because they quietly know someone else will eventually cave and do it. Whatever the reason, one thing is for sure, if adulthood could be gauged solely by the tidiness of one’s laundry basket, many men would still be waiting to graduate.
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